Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take much longer at each stage.Unfortunately, some people don’t fully experience and process each stage as an opportunity for personal growth or to make a healthy evaluation about the relationship or about themselves.There is no need to rush through this important stage and every reason to go slowly.Stage 4: Commitment or Engagement At this stage in a relationship, couples should have a good understanding of their partner’s values, life style, and goals for the future.Often (not always) there is not enough “is this the right person for me” but rather more “what can I do to make this person like me?” This stage may last for 3 or 4 months depending on the individuals and their maturity, experience and self-understanding.There are 4 predictable stages that couples experience in a dating relationship.
Couples generally do not have much conflict at this stage of the cycle as each is really trying hard to impress the other person.There should be a relationship with each other’s family and friends.Open and honest conversations should be happening as couples plan their present and future together.Going slowly in making any decisions about a relationship are more likely to be better ones than moving quickly (unless it is clear that the relationship is not a good fit).
Stage 3: “Enlightenment” and Becoming a Couple During this stage of a relationship, hormones are calming down and reality sets in. Trust is stronger and more intimacies may be shared at this stage as couples take away some of their “best face” and allow themselves to act more naturally and relaxed.
Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these qualities: A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior.